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Supporting Children Through Grief While Navigating Your Own

Grief is a universal human experience, and it doesn't discriminate based on age. When you, as an adult, are grappling with your own grief, it can be particularly challenging to help your children process their feelings of loss. In this blog post, we'll explore how to navigate this delicate balance, offering strategies and insights to support both yourself and your children during this difficult time.


1. Understanding Children's Grief:

Children grieve differently from adults, and their understanding of death evolves as they grow. It's crucial to recognize their unique perspectives and reactions to loss. Younger children may have difficulty comprehending the finality of death, while older children may experience more complex emotions. Be prepared for a wide range of responses.



2. Honesty and Open Communication:

Honesty is important when helping children through grief. While it's natural to want to protect them from pain, it's essential to provide truthful and age-appropriate information about the situation. Encourage them to ask questions, and be prepared to answer them with sensitivity and patience.


3. Express Your Own Grief:

It's okay to show your own emotions as an adult grieving alongside your children. In fact, it can be healthy for them to witness your grief process as long as it's not overwhelming. Explain that it's okay to feel sad, angry, or confused, and that these feelings are normal reactions to loss.


4. Maintain Routines and Stability:

Children thrive on routines and stability, especially during times of upheaval. Try to maintain their daily schedules as much as possible to provide a sense of security and predictability in their lives.


5. Encourage Expression: Give children various outlets to express their grief. This could include art, writing, or simply talking about their feelings. Encourage them to create memory books or drawings as a way to remember and honor the person they've lost.

6. Seek Professional Help if Needed: If you're struggling to cope with your grief or if your children's grief seems overwhelming, it's crucial to seek the assistance of a professional therapist or counselor. They can provide guidance and support tailored to your family's unique situation.

7. Connect with Support Networks: Reach out to friends, family, or support groups to share your experiences and feelings. Connecting with others who have faced similar challenges can provide comfort and valuable insights.

8. Create Rituals of Remembrance: Consider establishing rituals or traditions that allow both you and your children to remember and honor the person you've lost. These can include lighting candles, planting a memorial garden, or sharing stories and memories.

Conclusion: Navigating grief as an adult while helping children process their own grief is a demanding and emotional journey. Remember that it's okay to ask for help, and it's okay to take breaks when needed. Your efforts to support your children during this challenging time are a testament to your love and dedication as a parent.

Closing Thoughts: As you embark on this journey of healing and support, remember that grief is a process, not a destination. Your resilience and love can guide your family through this difficult chapter, and, in time, you can find moments of peace and acceptance together. Feel free to adapt and customize this blog post to fit your website's style and audience. It's essential to approach this topic with empathy and sensitivity, as it addresses the emotional challenges faced by both adults and children during the grieving process.




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shaunadst1989
Sep 19, 2023

Powerful read and so relevant to the children I work with that have lost parents, grandparents and other family members especially during the pandemic. Trauma is difficult for anyone to work through and these are useful tools for adults and elementary-aged children. Thank you!

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I Heal Tap
Sep 19, 2023
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Thank you for sharing your experience of expertise 💜

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kloveleee
Sep 09, 2023

There are so many situations in life that we wish we had the answers to solve. As you have stated, grief is a journey that requires patience with self, others and understanding that there is no exact answer to begin to heal. This blog offers a detailed toolkit on not only how healing can begin, but flourish. I am grateful for your journey and that you share your experience freely with us all.

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I Heal Tap
Sep 17, 2023
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Thank you, Kena

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Ms. Teia Coleman, LCMHC, CCTP-II
Ms. Teia Coleman, LCMHC, CCTP-II
Sep 09, 2023

This was such a powerful blog, full of accuracy and implementable ideas… I want to share how all points have helped me, but if I follow my body #3 rebates the most.

Being a young, black, single mom at 19 (attending a white college) I developed a routine of suffering in silence (cried at night alone; ALWAYS looked put together in public)… However, that made my now 23 year old son, believe that I was free from sad emotions and fear. He still believes I’m the strongest person on earth because I never shared my grief; I never cried in front of him because I felt like it was a sign of weakness. He saw me cry for t…

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I Heal Tap
Sep 17, 2023
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You are such a strong woman who knows how to get to the bottom and heal to the top. I admire that in you. Thank you so much for sharing this story.

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jamersonsan505
Sep 05, 2023

Grief is different for each person involved. In my situation I only had to contend with myself. I tend to keep my feelings inside, to myself, until I went for counseling. This helped, but, it was a struggle for a long while.


Thanks for the insight, I loved it!

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I Heal Tap
Sep 17, 2023
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I’m so glad you got what you needed. ❤️

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dominique
Sep 03, 2023

This was a very interesting and informative read. Thank you so your perspective.

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I Heal Tap
Sep 17, 2023
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You’re welcome and thank you for reading!

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