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Love After Loss: Finding New Love as a Grieving Widow

Updated: Sep 19, 2023


We all possess a unique story, and I'd like to offer you a glimpse into a few short chapters of mine. It unfolds at a pivotal moment in my life, ignited by the heart-wrenching death of my husband, Rodney, at the youthful age of 30. His departure left behind not only treasured memories but also a seven-year-old daughter who was not just his pride and joy, and only child but his side-kick to his best daddy-daughter adventures. Remarkably, destiny had them share the same February birthday, infusing an extra layer of significance into our shared journey.

Chapter 1: A Shocking & Devastating Loss: No one could have ever prepared me for such a time. You see, he needed a kidney transplant, and that procedure ultimately led to his untimely death. I was 31 years old at the time, and the weight of the world seemed to rest upon my shoulders. I found myself compelled to make monumental, life-altering choices – orchestrating and financing a funeral befitting the love of my life, all while settling his affairs, writing substantial checks, and dispersing more substantial sums to family members than I had ever done before in my life.

Chapter 2: The Resilience of Grief: I faced the harsh reality of life without him, and I began dating relatively soon after his death. Too soon for most everyone around me. I remember the words of my Grief Counselor, reassuring me not to be too hard on myself because grief knows no timetable and I had so much love left in my heart that it needed somewhere to go. It was during this time that I met someone new, a man who would become my knight in shining armor.

Chapter 3: Love Beyond Grief: My daughter, Brea, believed that this man was a special presence sent by her daddy, and I took that sentiment to heart, ultimately making another life-altering decision to invite him into our lives. However, the journey wasn't without its complexities. I wish I could say that my grieving stopped the moment Larry entered our lives, but that wouldn't be accurate. Larry became my anchor during countless nights and days when tears flowed uncontrollably. He has consistently been supportive and Brea and I have always wholeheartedly embraced honoring Rodney's memory and our enduring love for him, and Larry has never shown any signs of jealousy or discontent with our connection to Rodney.

Chapter 4: Love in the Shadow of the Deceased: As time passed, Larry and I eventually began sharing a home. During those nights when grief would visit me from the deepest of sleep, leaving me searching for Rodney and actually calling his name aloud in the darkness, Larry was there to help ground me. It was an unusual and strange experience to say the least, but Larry never complained or held it against me.

Here's a valuable piece of advice for those who've lost a loved one and are contemplating the path to moving forward: seek someone unafraid to stand in the shadow of the departed. Rodney was beloved by many, and a few of his family and mine struggled to witness my journey towards a new love interest. Not everyone welcomed Larry with open arms and considering my swift decision to move on, I understood. However, I remained consistently concerned for the happiness and peace of mind for both my daughter and myself.

Chapter 5: Prioritizing Well-Being:

In the grand scheme of things, my major concern was always for our overall well-being. This person consistently showed up and stood by our side, ensuring the welfare of both my child and me. This unwavering support became our anchor as we navigated the sometimes complicated path of my grief and love. Larry and I have shared 13 years of marriage, and we take immense pride in the beautiful tapestry of our blended family.

Conclusion: Certainly, finding love again after the death of a spouse or loved one is a delicate and deeply personal journey. It's a journey of resilience, healing, and ultimately, prioritizing your own well-being. While it may not be an easy path, and often difficult for many to comprehend, finding love again is indeed possible. I stand as living proof of that! My heart, it seems, knows no bounds—I'll carry my love for Rodney eternally while also cherishing the love I share with Larry. Love has a way of expanding one's heart beyond measure.

Additional Suggestions for Navigating the Grief Journey with Love:

  1. Seek Professional Guidance: Grief counseling can be incredibly beneficial in helping you process your emotions and navigate the complexities of loss.

  2. Take Your Time: There's no set timetable for grieving. Don't rush the process; allow yourself to heal at your own pace.

  3. Honor Your Loved One: Keep the memory of your departed loved one alive by sharing stories, celebrating their life, or creating a memorial in their honor.

  4. Communicate Openly: Talk to your new partner about your past and your grief journey. Effective communication is key to building a strong, supportive relationship.

  5. Surround Yourself with Support: Lean on friends and family who understand your journey and provide a shoulder to lean on when needed.

Remember, your story is unique, and your path to healing and love will be too. Embrace the journey and allow yourself the grace to find happiness once more.

Kelly Buffaloe Taylor, a Certified Grief Counselor at I Heal Tap, a dedicated grief and bereavement wellness service. With a deep passion for helping individuals navigate the challenging journey of grief, I bring both professional expertise and personal understanding to my work. Having experienced loss in my own life, I know firsthand the profound impact it can have on our emotional and mental well-being.

My mission is to provide compassionate support, guidance, and healing to those who are grieving. Through my blog posts, I aim to share valuable insights, short personal stories of my own loss, coping strategies, and resources that can help you or your loved ones find solace during difficult times.

Whether you're here seeking guidance, information, or simply a sense of connection with someone who understands, I'm here for you. Together, we can explore the path toward healing and resilience in the face of loss.

Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your journey, and I look forward to connecting with you on the profound topic of grief and its transformative power. If you have any questions or would like to share your own experiences, please don't hesitate to reach out. Let's walk this path together.

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3 comentários

23 de set. de 2023

Thank you for sharing your story with us Kellz. I love you and am grateful to GOD for bringing you and Brea into our lives.


19 de set. de 2023

This is amazing! I commend you for becoming vulnerable enough to allow others to share in your journey. These pieces of you will help someone else to heal and know that it's okay to love those who have transitioned on before us, while loving someone here. Sending you love and light while you share with the world your story.


19 de set. de 2023

Amazing blog about your life altering experiences and a beautiful love story that I had the pleasure to witness of you, Larry and Brea! ❤️❤️❤️

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